{"id":5713,"date":"2022-02-16T04:12:29","date_gmt":"2022-02-16T04:12:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.com.au\/articles\/?p=5713"},"modified":"2022-02-16T04:12:31","modified_gmt":"2022-02-16T04:12:31","slug":"who-is-the-one-deserving-of-your-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.com.au\/articles\/who-is-the-one-deserving-of-your-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Who Is The One Deserving Of Your Love?"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Sofia:<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/span><\/span> When I was younger, I remember asking my friends\u2019 parents, \u201cHow do you know that he is the right one?\u201d<\/em>. Our definition of love changes as we grow older, and I was curious to know how people stay happily together no matter the years. For me, for the most part of my life, it was easy to date guys, but I was having a hard time finding the love I knew I deserved.<\/p>\n

I was never the woman who dreamed of marriage, but I always wanted companionship and partnership. A true love and connection, and I wouldn\u2019t settle for anything less. I was dreaming of meeting a man with whom we co-create and share life, with love, respect, honesty and trust. The simple things we all want in any connection, became hard to find as I was growing older. The innocence I was approaching my love life changed, as I was having several experiences with guys who broke my trust. Why did having a relationship start to become so hard?<\/p>\n

\"1sofia2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

For sure, growing older changed my dating criteria about men. I want way much more out of a connection in comparison to my younger self. This shouldn\u2019t be a problem though, as all people shift through experiences and get more clear about what makes them happy. The problem was that I was open to people who didn\u2019t align with my values, and I have opened my heart numerous times to guys who didn\u2019t know what love is. Looking for love in the wrong places will always leave us confused and hurt.<\/p>\n

You see, in the name of love and companionship, I would often \u201cignore\u201d very obvious signs that intuitively I knew that these guys aren\u2019t the match I want. Part of it would be that I didn\u2019t trust my intuition as much as I do now. Another part would be that I wasn\u2019t so clear about where my acceptance, boundaries and tolerance start or stop. I was trying way too hard, to \u201cfit in\u201d in love that wasn’t for me. Why? Because, deep down I didn\u2019t trust myself. I didn\u2019t trust that what I want is not too much, but what I deserve. Love feels like love, and it is effortless\u2026 doesn\u2019t feel like anxiety, doubt or worry.<\/p>\n

I used to be extremely frustrated about the fact that I was attracting all sorts of wrong guys and behaviors; thinking that I am undeserving of love, falling in love again and again, one heartbreak after the other, and dealing with guys who cheat, deceive, and are inconsistent\u2026 the list goes on! The situation seemed helpless and my trust issues were real! Having such experiences, one after the other, makes you question your trust and your judgment about people. \u201cWhat kind of karma do I pay off? I have never been an evil person!\u201d Yet, all these experiences were a blessing in disguise!<\/p>\n

Growing wiser, made me understand that I don\u2019t have any control, nor responsibility about other people\u2019s actions. What they do, they do it out of their own insecurities, limitations and fear and have nothing to do with me. They choose to show up as they choose so, and it doesn\u2019t define my worth. That was a hard one to understand for a long time, but once I did, it changed my life big time. They make their choices, and I make mine. And I came to a point to love so hard myself, that I walk away from any toxic behavior that makes me question love. I love hard and my emotions are precious. I no longer exchange my energy with people who vibe low. Once you decide to act with congruency on that one, you will never ever feel confusion in your love life again. Love is not hard, we make it hard when he stays in situations that aren\u2019t meant for us.<\/p>\n

My days of hoping and praying for meeting my soulmate turned to loving myself and my life so much that I don\u2019t negotiate my happiness in petty situations. Loving ME and MY world became so precious, that only people who have a positive and loving influence in my life are welcome. I am the LOVE. Feeling secure and grounded in my world, gives me the trust that no matter what is going to happen, I have ME and this is something that no one can take away.<\/p>\n

\"1sofia2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cA goddess doesn\u2019t rule the world, she is the world\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Love and Light,<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Sofia<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

By Sofia: When I was younger, I remember asking my friends\u2019 parents, \u201cHow do you know that he is the right one?\u201d. Our definition of love changes as we grow older, and I was curious to know how people stay happily together no matter the years. For me, for the most part of my life, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":147,"featured_media":5714,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[36,1321,1162,1426,646,478,238,342],"class_list":["post-5713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-relationships","tag-love","tag-love-and-life","tag-love-and-relationships","tag-love-articles","tag-love-issues","tag-relationship-issues","tag-relationship-problems","tag-true-love"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t