{"id":6958,"date":"2024-01-16T01:35:59","date_gmt":"2024-01-16T01:35:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.com.au\/articles\/?p=6958"},"modified":"2024-01-16T01:35:59","modified_gmt":"2024-01-16T01:35:59","slug":"the-pursuit-of-happiness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.com.au\/articles\/the-pursuit-of-happiness\/","title":{"rendered":"The Pursuit Of Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Sue:<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/span><\/span> As we start to look at our lives, we decide whether we are content within ourselves. The question we usually ask ourselves is whether we are happy. For most people, if they are honest, the answer will be no, or that at least in some areas they could be happier. <\/p>\n

For some, this then begins the journey of self-reflection, leading to self-exploration, uncovering issues, and heading in the direction of self-healing, hoping that the destination will be self-knowledge and self-love.<\/p>\n

As we uncover more and more on this path of self-healing, we can become more and more aware of our discontent, and it can become apparent that there is a great deal of pain and unhappiness deep within us, which we were either unaware of, or did not want to feel.<\/p>\n

The further we go into this pain, the further we depart from the happiness we were originally seeking. If we choose to go right into those deep wounds, we can spend a long time feeling the pain that we have stored inside of us, not only from this life, but it is also possible, that it comes from other lives and other times. For this reason, I do not recommend trying to figure out what it is, because that can really waste time, money and energy.<\/p>\n

As you go through this process, remember what it was that made you begin it. Remember, that you were not satisfied with the life you were living, or the way you were feeling. Remember that the process of healing involves first feeling, and then letting go of the pain stored within you. Healing is a process; it is not a singular event.<\/p>\n

Some people can fall into the trap of judging themselves, as not having got to where they were trying to get to soon enough, and they can start to feel like a failure, or that they are not doing things right. I would like to share with you now something that can change that perception that you may end up having about yourself.<\/p>\n

Understand that we are who we are, we feel what we feel, and we live the experiences that we choose and that we decide are right for us at the time. Whatever we feel, whoever we are, and whatever we are experiencing, is all perfect for us at that moment in time. Whether we are happy or not, is actually a judgement. We are what we are, and each feeling, each experience, is as valid as the next. No one feeling is better than another. No matter what you are feeling, if you are feeling something, you are experiencing life.<\/p>\n

We are here to experience life. We are here because we can be. We\u2019re not here because we must do this or must do that, we\u2019re not here to be trapped in a cage by what is right and what is wrong. We can do whatever we want to do; we simply must bear the consequences of those actions, including the karma they create. The journey of the self into the self, incorporates taking responsibility for ourselves and our actions. Making our own decisions about who we are and how we live our lives, is a very big part of this process.<\/p>\n

Any experience we have is valid and we have the right to choose our own experiences, as well as how we relate to or react to those experiences. In your process of journeying towards self-love, there must also be allowing yourself to make the choices you wish to make, to have the experiences you wish to have, and to feel the full range of feelings that can be associated with life on this planet.<\/p>\n

If you can let go of the judgement that attaches to the word happiness, and let go of expecting it to be a daily experience, especially once you decide to pursue your own healing journey, you can then start to perceive this as a journey, with all of the twists and turns that you come across on any journey. You can let go of judging whether you are being successful or not, measured by your level of happiness. When we decide to heal ourselves, it is because there is pain within us. <\/p>\n

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The process of healing involves feeling and releasing that pain. It is unreasonable to expect that healing is going to be anything but a painful journey, the only question is how long that that painful part will last. The answer to that question depends on the size of the issue that you encounter, and the way you deal with your healing. If you find that your healing journey is long, then understand that it is because the issue you have found is large and deep. The bigger and deeper the wounds you encounter, the longer they take to work through, and the more difference this process will ultimately make in your life.<\/p>\n

Do not lose heart if your journey is long and if you lose sight of happiness for quite some time. Remember that the issues you are dealing with may have taken lifetimes to become so entangled in your being. Such issues take time. Many people who have been on the wheel of making sure they stay positive each day and reciting affirmations etc can be quite shocked initially to realise that all that positive energy in fact only exists for them on the surface. The depths of their being may tell a very different story. I know this because it was true for me.<\/p>\n

When you have been on a healing road for a long time, if it is very deep healing requiring big change in your life, you may come, as I did, to hate having to answer the question \u2013 \u201chow are you?\u201d Personally, I felt that I just could not hear myself say one more time that I wasn\u2019t good. I was so tired of that being my reality that I just avoided people so I didn\u2019t have to have the conversation. Only people who choose to dive deeply into their own dark and murky depths can understand what you may encounter there and how long it can take to re-emerge.<\/p>\n

When someone asks you how you are, think outside the box. You don\u2019t have to only choose from good or bad, you can say you have really found yourself. The journey towards self-love usually begins when people seek to find themselves. Understand that you have already done this, and you are allowing your inner self to determine the direction that journey now takes. Do not judge yourself by other people\u2019s expectations. Do not let that be the ruler by which you measure your success.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself, willingly or not, doing a very deep dive into yourself and you need support from someone who truly understands the process, I am here to support you and remind you that this too shall pass.<\/p>\n

Much love and light.<\/p>\n

Sue<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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