By Counselor Karen: Going to work is something we all have to do. It is inevitable in order to survive. Working for some is enjoyable and for others stressful. Why is it that some can find joy in going to work and others have anxiety from just walking in the door of the workplace? It all has to do with “People.”
We all have days where going to work and running into that “certain” person that drives you crazy will exist. But the fact is our work environments consist of so many different personalities. Let’s face it, many of those personalities don’t mix. But should it ruin our day to have to work with people that are unpleasant to be around? The answer is NO. You and only you can control your attitude and your actions.
Most likely the reason is that there are unpleasant people at work is because of their lack of wanting to be there in the first place. Usually hurting people that are going through their own problems outside the workplace tend to want to hurt others and make them feel bad too. You have heard the phrase, “Misery loves company.”
While many people want to rant about the people they work with, I find that embracing them with kindness often does the trick. I recently just went back to work a part time job in the afternoons. I have not been in the workforce outside of working for myself at home for years. I was nervous and anxious at first I must admit, but after conquering a few days, I have loved it!
I have met people that have brightened my day and the ones that don’t, I try to brighten theirs. The best thing you can do as a person going into what you think is a lion’s den is to put on a smile and spread joy. Many of those people you find hard to work with are going through their own stuff. There may be a good reason they are so negative to be around. We cannot determine what is going on in someone else’s life, but we can sure be a reason for someone else to smile.
Many give advice to go to work and not saying anything, but listen to everything, but on the other hand, if you did that you would not encounter amazing people along the way. Sometimes you just have to trust that you are putting some place for a reason and if you are in a good season of life that you can help spread positivity throughout the workplace. I am not saying that you will be everyone’s friend, because that is not something that is possible. Many people tend to be jealous of happy people and others are just not compatible even as friends. Don’t let that stop you from being the encouraging coworker that through making others smile makes work a whole lot more enjoyable.
Work is inevitable for many families. So next time you go to work, consider that just being you, might be the very thing that someone else needs that day. If not, that is fine too. When you find JOY at work, you find JOY in life. Then, like me you cannot wait to get there the next day and do it all again.
Love and Light,