There tend to be strong Gender Difference on why people have affairs.
Although they are not exact, they do add another layer in understanding the behaviour of the other person you may be considering or have chosen to have an affair with.
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Difference #1: Women seek Soul Mates – Men seek Playmates.
The result of this is a man does not have to be unhappy within a marriage to have what he considered a fling. The woman in the picture is likely to feel it is for love.
Difference #2: Women believe that their affair is justified when it’s for love – Men when it is not for love.
Women tend to attach themselves more deeply to their lovers, both emotionally and sexually, which is one reason why their affairs if the woman is married often leads to divorce.
Women tend to have a problem with seeing a relationship just for sex and as a result tend to confuse the two “L” words. LOVE & LUST.
The reason for this is upbringing.
Most women are brought up with the traditional feminine virtues of “self-denial, self-sacrifice, self-effacement and most important, self-restraint. That is why it is often the woman who gets the blame for the affair rather than the man.
In general, men believe that extramarital sex is acceptable and even condoned by society as long as it’s only a fling and no one gets hurt – particularly his wife. It is rare that a man having a fling is actually wishing a divorce – it is far too costly for him in financial terms.
Men tend to minimize the significance of a sexual encounter, seeing it as an inconsequential event, an accident, a momentary release.